WEEK 2 of 7 Habits for Year 2024 – (BE PROACTIVE) Stephen Covey’s Book Review
In the second week of our 8-week journey through Stephen Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” we discussed the first habit: Be Proactive. We were honoured to have an enlightening dialogue with our guest – Maryann Mbat, who shed light on the profound impact of proactivity on personal and professional growth.
Self-Awareness and Breaking Free from the Social-Mirror
Proactivity is more than just taking the initiative. It’s about recognizing our responsibility to shape our lives, decisions, and responses, independent of our external conditions. Covey emphasizes the unique human ability to reflect on one’s thoughts and actions, a trait that sets us apart from the animal kingdom. This self-awareness enables us to choose our responses to the stimuli around us, thereby defining our reality.
We were able to explore how the “social mirror” often distorts our self-perception, reflecting not who we truly are but how others see us. Covey eloquently describes this phenomenon: “Our view of ourselves is like the reflection in the crazy mirror room at the carnival.” He suggests that these reflections are more about the projections of others’ insecurities and less about our true selves. This can be a mix of their perceptions, paradigms, and even their insecurities. Covey challenges us to look beyond these reflections and to understand that we are not solely products of our environment or genetics but of our choices and responses.
Proactivity vs. Reactivity
Proactivity is defined by Covey as the responsibility we hold for our lives, where our behavior is a function of decisions, not conditions. “Proactive people recognize their ‘response-ability’—the ability to choose your response,” Covey explains. This contrasts starkly with reactive people, who often absolve themselves of responsibility, attributing their behavior to external factors.
Maryann, during the webinar, highlighted this distinction with real-life examples, illustrating how proactive individuals choose their actions based on values and not on their environment or conditions. They focus their energy in their Circle of Influence, working on what they can impact, which in turn, magnifies their influence.
The language we use serves as a mirror to our mindset. Reactive language often relinquishes responsibility, with phrases like “That’s just the way I am” or “There’s nothing I can do about it.” In contrast, proactive language embodies empowerment and accountability, focusing on what can be controlled and influenced.
A key concept discussed was the Circle of Concern and Influence. Whether facing direct, indirect, or uncontrollable problems, proactive individuals recognize that the first step to a solution lies within the circle of influence – things you can control, not things you cannot control – circle of concern.
The Challenge and Application Suggestions
To bring these concepts to life, we proposed a 30-day challenge recommended in the book and encouraging participants to be committed to it as they act within their Circle of Influence, embracing proactive responses over reactive ones. This includes being a light, not a judge; setting positive examples; and learning from mistakes.
The review of the first Habit – Be Proactive lasted for 45 minutes and the message was clear: embracing proactivity is embracing the power of choice. It’s about recognizing that our responses, not our circumstances, define our reality. This realization is pivotal to personal growth and effectiveness.
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